To whom it may concern. Based on some emails I've received overtime from readers of my Blog and also potential clients. I've decided to address this issue ; Some Ladies complain that their boyfriend doesn't pay their rent, pay for their meals, pay for their hair, buy them new phones or even upgrade their car, buy them laptops, provisions for their kitchen.
These ladies have the cognition or mindset that it is their God-given right to forcefully demand both essentials and luxury from their boyfriend. They see their boyfriend as an ATM machine or Jesus who has the answer to all their problem.
The sad part is that some of these "Boyfriends" are still in University, Nysc and are obviously victims of the harsh economics times.
What these ladies don't understand is that in relationships these days "Independence" is very key, if you've turned yourself to a dependent child in your boyfriends care he will definitely treat you as such. He will start giving you curfew, he will start being controlling and possessive, he may get physically and emotionally abusive because you have upgraded him from boyfriend to your 2nd daddy so he may live up to the name.
A lot of women are stuck in marriages today because of financial ineptitude and lack of skills to generate income, some women are done with their husbands in their mind, body and soul but they can't leave because they don't have a job and they know without him they can't eat common bread or indomie or even pay their child's school fees.
If your boyfriend buys you things willingly that's amazing but don't turn him into your Parent and demand as if it's your right.
I once heard a lady say, "shebi my BF is f**king me so the money I'm asking for is paying for the sex Abeg" Really?? Fine face and fine hair isn't enough anymore your independence is very key. Your have fine face and you're asking guys for money "upandan" it's just pitiful. Independence is Key